Sex, Love and Relationships

I’m so adamant about being solo, even when I was in a three-year relationship, I still thought of myself as more like a ‘crazy cat lady’, solo girl than someone who was attached. I was simply playing a role that bored me to tears. Beyond that role, I was happy, so there was nothing “wrong”…
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My Ideal Relationship

I talked a little bit about manifesting my ideal partner, which has since changed and evolved, but now I want to switch the focus on my ideal relationship. What does it look like? Feel like? My ideal relationship feels expansive, supportive, and turned on. The truth is, there is no ONE person for you. It…
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Maybe Baby

Here’s the secret about maybe. Maybe means no…t now. As much as I have no desire to have children, I’m open to it changing. I also know I have no burning desire to have kids and would be completely fine if I ended up missing the boat. In other words, I’m not desperate to find…
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Phoenix

When I was a kid, I was obsessed with dinosaurs, wolves, and phoenixes. I drew dinosaurs and wolves every day. I didn’t draw phoenixes, but the symbolism of the bird stood out to me when I first learned about it from a Big Bird in China movie. The whole plot of the movie was to…
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The Jerk

There are some things you just don’t talk about, because it’s not appropriate. Because you have mutual friends. I feel like rape, sexual assault or sexual harrassment go in that category. I’ve never been raped — technically. It’s easier to go along than say no. To stick to my boundaries. To push my ground. I’m…
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The Good Cry

My one and only bad ‘falling out’ with a female friend was rough. We had a couple disagreements because she was/is a militant vegan and while I have always danced around vegetarianism throughout my life, I never made a full, conscious commitment to practice it (I’m a ‘commitmentphobe’ after all). We met through a mutual…
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Do the Work

You know that choking feeling where it’s getting harder to breathe? Life circumstances are starting to feel like that… Good thing I’m kind of a masochist. I get off on this shit. The slight loss of control. The feeling of being slightly dominated. Ultimately, I want control of my life but there’s something about the…
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Dance, Dance, Dance

(hint: play the music while you read the entry) Having trouble telling how I feel but I can dance, dance, dance couldn’t possibly tell you how I mean, but I can dance, dance, dance Movement in body is movement in life. I am always reminded of this and have intellectually known it, trying to methodically…
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Soulmate Relationships

I believe in soulmates like how Elizabeth Gilbert believes in soulmates. “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you…
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Sex Dreams

He was asleep and I was awake and horny, my desire for him full and wanting more. Feeling his briefs and gently brushing my hand against his flaccid penis, I coaxed him awake. I played a little over his briefs, then massaged him from underneath, placing my hand through the opening. I licked my tongue…
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