Random Thoughts

A past lover once said to me that I would never find anyone as BIG as him, as if it’d be my last rodeo. It was an egotistically dick thing to say. Nevertheless, I knew he was wrong. My first boyfriend was bigger than him, and I’d find someone bigger; it didn’t necessarily have to…
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The Problem With Monogamy

I wrote about the problem with polyamory, but I’m not letting monogamy off the hook. There are a lot of things that could be improved, in general. It was my problem with monogamy that lead me to explore polyamory in the first place. The following points may not describe all monogamous relationships and these are…
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The Problem with Polyamory

This is part one of a two-part series in which I will explore both polyamory and monogamy, and the problems I see within each model. I’ll first start with polyamory. These are my opinions only and I am not an “expert”. One Foot Out the Door The typical polyamorous model is having guidelines and agreements…
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Sexual Liberation Starts With Choice

I used to have a sexual liberation coach and hiring her was one of the best decisions of my life. I didn’t know why I was contacting her. Something in me just tugged. I dug her email offer out of my trash bin, embarrassed. Was I really going to do this? But I’m happy. Nothing…
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I Am the Unicorn

Let me just preface this to say that I went to my first naked party. Did I get your attention, Mon’Amie? I went to New York and my friend threw a naked party just so I could attend, because he knew I was in town. In a way, he threw it for ME. The wild…
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A Month Without Porn

I love pornography. I think I watch more porn than any of my exes. Combined. That’s not a lot of exes but, that’s a lot of porn. So when I checked into my guesthouse in Chiang Mai, Thailand, my next hub for at least a month, I was a bit cranky over the fact that…
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Recreational Romance

”You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.” -Plato As they say, “try before you buy.” Go on a test drive first. You’re not objectifying yourself, or the process. Rather, you’re owning your sextoy prowess. You don’t have to wine and dine me. Lets cut…
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How to Manifest Your Ideal Partner: Write it Down

If you’re not writing it down, you probably don’t want it bad enough. This goes for everything and anything in your life, including your personal life. If you’re not writing it down, you’re probably not going to make the conscious effort or accomplish goals to achieve it. Because writing it down is the first step…
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