Let me just preface this to say that I went to my first naked party.
Did I get your attention, Mon’Amie?
I went to New York and my friend threw a naked party just so I could attend, because he knew I was in town. In a way, he threw it for ME. The wild card. The wild one.
I didn’t have a birthday party a week or two before so this counts as my birthday suit party, right? Right.
Four couples and me, the Unicorn.
A Unicorn is a single, bisexual female that open/poly couples look for to play with in an MFF threesome. A Unicorn is a rare breed (and perhaps why they are coined ‘Unicorns’ for their mythical nature), as the requirements are often “hot, bisexual, babe” (HBB), unattached, single and ‘secondary’. They are expected not to threaten the primary relationship of the couple inviting them and remain emotionally unattached. The Unicorn must be aloof, and retreat to their mythical, mystical land from whence they came, only to be summoned when the time beacons (I like writing up my ass).
Why I’m the Perfect Unicorn
Not to brag or nothin’ but I think I’m the perfect Unicorn. I’m nomadic and travel. I probably don’t want to live where you are, which puts me at the perfect advantage for your emotionally unattached bit of fun. I have no attachments to places, and people, and I don’t want a relationship (I’m either single or with my partner and I wouldn’t want it any other way). I’m a HBB and I’ve got Buddhist non-attachment down to a tee. It comes with the terrain of being a traveler.
People describe me as “calm” (if they lived inside my head they’d know better), and I’ve already got Unicorn experience under my belt (literally).
The first time I was a Unicorn, I had sex dreams for a week straight. It blew my mind. Not necessarily in that sexually gratifying way (though there was that too), but in that eye opening “whole new world” sort of way that I had never experienced first hand, and only read and dreamt about prior. Now THAT’S what I call shining, shimmering, splendid.
I was referred by a mutual friend to enter a threesome with a married couple. It was my first real, live look into an alternative relationship, and a marriage at that! It was exactly what I wanted.
A family, kids, and kink.
A partner to fulfill me and women to play with.
In their particular arrangement, the wife wasn’t allowed, nor interested, in hooking up with men, but could be with other women. She had no resentments towards an “unfair” gender bias, because she was truly uninterested in other men and very attentive and faithful to her man. She just wanted to dominate and fuck woman.
It’s a man’s dream to share their woman with another HBB and the perfect MFF threesome is borne (cue Handel’s “Hallelujah”).
It’s my fantasy to eat my first pussy (sadly, the nature of my first threesome didn’t reach “home run”, if we’re going by baseball) and share the moment with a partner, but I digress. I’m the Unicorn, not the couple in this scenario.
I have no expectations for what will happen, and won’t take it personally if you don’t want me to be your Unicorn, but if you do, I’m okay with that too. I can take it or leave it. No attachment and no hurt feelings. I’m down for some fun. That’s all.
It’s easier to find couples looking for Unicorns than it is to BE the couple looking for a Unicorn. I know from both experiences.
Single, unattached, female is one hot commodity in the open/poly world, and they seem like few and far between.
Where Have All the Unicorns Gone?
Searching for a Unicorn, on the other hand, is tough. Couples have the right to be picky and crave a certain chemistry. It’s not entirely a free for all.
I know couples in the scene but singles? Personally, I don’t know any girl like ME. I’m one in a million. The perfect Unicorn. The girl next door and a freak in bed.
Being with a partner, it’s hard to find the “third”. It’s almost as if they don’t exist.
In most cases, couples will give the female the task to initiate with another female. When I’m in partnership, it is up to me to find the girl.
At first I thought this was unfair. Guys should be the hunters, but they’re lazy, and why should I have to do all the work?
After exploring with more couples and getting my first tastes within the ‘scene’, it made me think and realize the reason why women should lead.
A woman initiates with another woman and this is considered the safer, less threatening route than a man approaching, who could be seen as a ‘predator’. It’s important for the woman in the relationship to “approve” of the other woman involved and therefore, it would be best to pick the woman herself, and approach her. You want your woman to feel safe and respected, and really, she runs the show. If she’s not fine with it, then the show’s over. It starts with the woman’s consent.
That’s an empowering realization, but it doesn’t make finding the Unicorn any easier.
For now, let me enjoy being the Unicorn. Let me be the “other”, the “third”. Less maintenance and more freedom.